Things They Don’t Tell You In Your 20’s (Dot Dot Dot)It’s Ghetto Series- Part 2 : Quarter Life Crisis
Hello hello! Go ahead and give yourself a pat on the back - you stuck around for Part 2. I'll be honest, this topic was a bit of a pain to recall just as much as it was a pain to live while going through this part of my life.
Put a finger down if you had a moment of uncertainty, identity crisis, high stress, numbness, and so on. Were you just as confused as I was?!!? Once again, a topic nooooo oneee speaks about. I truly didn't know what to think. Before we dive into Rhiana's quarter-life crisis, we need to figure out what the heck a quarter-life crisis is haha. Well, luckily for you all- I googled it to save you the trouble. As told by Google..... A quarter-life crisis is a period of uncertainty, STRESS, and deep soul-searching that young people embark on (here is my reference just in case you plan on reporting me- 7summitpathways.com). I think 7summitpathways did a great job in summarizing that fact, especially the STRESS part. They pretty much confirmed that relentless meltdown. We often hear about midlife crises, but never did I think I'd be dealing with this angst before even hitting the BIG 3-0. Here's my story (see if you can relate) .....
Let's take a trip down memory lane to the year 2023 (I'm lowkey laughing at myself writing this because for some reason I feel like I've lived this longgggg life.... like 2023 was just yesterday lol). Either way, let me paint a picture for ya! I was finally settling into my new environment, a great apartment in the city, a career at its peak, kinda dating, exercising- you know, adulting like a pro. Yet, something was missing, and I didn't know how to explain that feeling. Now at this time, I truly didn't know what a "quarter-life crisis" was, but I knew I shouldn't have felt the way I felt because everything was great. I was in a fog. I just felt like I didn't know who Rhiana was at that moment. That went on for a full month. A month of questioning am I a good person, am I contributing to society, who am I and who am I meant to be? I was completely lost and apparently, my soul needed to deeply get those questions answered. Everyone's quarter-life crisis happens at different points and age ranges, but I was 27 when I first experienced it. I remember trying to explain this to my mom and let's sidebar here for a sec..... I'm first-generation Caribbean which simply means I grew up in a Caribbean household where your parents believe that you just need a few licks (which simply means hits) haha. It's not funny, but it's funny! So obviously they wouldn't have understood the assignment and no one else around me could relate at the moment or maybe they didn't know what the heck was going on for themselves either. So, do you know what my solution was............. Therapy! Yup, therapy! (It's okay to say and ask for help when you can't figure out the things in your life). I did and that's how I figured out what my quarter-life crisis was. I took proactive steps in sitting with the uncomfortable to figure out the goals that I wanted to set for myself. It's funny to see how life comes full circle, but I'm not perfect and I have my days, but hopefully, through my transparency, you're able to see within as well.
Now let's turn this bad boy around and end on the uppity up! If you are that individual going through a moment of difficulty while in your 20's then sugarplum it's probably, your "quarter-life crisis". You will get through the patch. It's def an uncomfortable place to be in, but you'll come out so much more appreciative. It's healthy to question your soul. Search deep within yourself. Do those check-ins on the regular as well. Look at me... I like to think I still have some good screws haha, no I'm kidding. I'll leave you with a quote "Don't be good, be great.... blah blah the rest by Dan Hampton" Look I referenced again. See ya next time!
